10 Common Reasons For Having Trouble Getting Pregnant12 min read

Irregular ovulation, poor diet and nutrition, stress… There are many common reasons for having trouble getting pregnant. Some people conceive their baby without waiting too long whereas others may have to try for a long time. If you are in the latter group, you may kind of feel disappointed, hopeless, stressful or unhappy. This is very common, but there are things you can do instead of engulfing in sadness. In this post, we will be talking about these things.

For a woman having trouble getting pregnant, everywhere might seem to be full of babies and children. Relax, you are not the only one having trouble getting pregnant. There are millions of people trying for long to be parents. The number of children, babies or pregnant people around is not going up. It is only perceptual selectivity.

So, for now stop feeling hopeless, and just find out the reason why you are having trouble getting pregnant so that you can get rid of it with a slight shift in your life or with the help of some specialist.

When to say, “you are having trouble getting pregnant”?

When two fertile people having regular sex without any kinds of contraception, they can expect to conceive within 12 months. It can take a little shorter or longer in your case, but this is the average. Australian research has found that an extension for this time frame may be totally reasonable.

Some couples are sub-fertile which means that the man is producing sufficient, healthy sperm and the woman is ovulating regularly, though for some reason, they do not conceive as quickly as they should otherwise. Many can go on to conceive normally after another one to two years of trying without taking any fertility assistance.

You can say that you are having trouble getting pregnant after trying long enough, which is around 10-15 months. In any case when you decide to have a baby, you can call your doctor to see if there is any disorder that can make you wait a little longer or that needs to be fixed. Having a checkup with your doctor will also help you out for having a healthy pregnancy even if you are not having trouble getting pregnant.

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So, let’s have a look at the most common reasons for having trouble getting pregnant.


We know that there are people who advise you to relax in case they know that you trying to get pregnant. And we know that it is not as easy as it is told. On the other hand, to speak in a more professional way, stress controls you not only psychologically but also physically. Also, mental balance and calm mind are very important when it comes to conceive. This is because stress makes your adrenal system take a hit. So your body will not let you get pregnant. This is so true.

How to deal with stress?

What can we say more than other people say? There are many ways to stop stress in order to improve your chances of having a baby. To get rid of stress, the very best thing to do is shorten the to-do list. This does not mean leave your life behind and focus only on getting pregnant. Here, we are trying to advise you to leave the works that make you feel in rush.

Instead of changing all your life, add some exercise and/or meditation to your daily routine. Give a break. And read a book. Or watch movies. Take a walk. Do yoga. See friends you like. Just watch the street from your window. Try to find your way to relax if you are having trouble getting pregnant.

Sleep Deprivation

Sleep plays an important role on regulating your body. Hormones and everything are related to your sleep routine. You may have trouble as usual or just as a result of having trouble getting pregnant. Yes, waiting long for getting pregnant can make you nervous and keep you away from nights you sleep easily.

Sleep deprivation puts stress on the body and makes you feel tired and stressful. For people who don’t get enough sleep, their immune systems are down a little bit and they’re more likely to get infections, which will affect the reproductive cycle. This is totally the same for men as well. Infections can cause fever and that excess heat can damage the sperm temporarily. Women who don’t get enough sleep can also start to feel anxious, which may cause missed periods. This is also another reason for heaving trouble getting pregnant.

How to deal with sleep deprivation?

When you are trying to get pregnant and having trouble getting pregnant, you have better not take chemicals. So you can try meditation before sleep. You may listen to the audios prepared to help people fall asleep. They really work!

You can try herbal teas or some herbal drugs. Doing yoga designed to do right before getting bed makes your body comfortable and clears your mind; which is really helpful for falling asleep.

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Weight Issues

A woman who is underweight or overweight may have some difficulty conceiving a baby. Proper ovulation is directly related to nourished body. You do not have to find the perfect body that modern life wants from women. However, you should try to find your own best body weight because this is about conceiving and having trouble getting pregnant.

In case when you are over your ideal weight, this situation decreases your chance of getting pregnant even if you are ovulating regularly. Maintaining a healthy diet and developing a reasonable exercise routine will do wonders for your mind and body. It is mostly about the hormones and your nourishment. Also, being too thin or exercising too much can negatively impact your fertility.

How to deal with weight issues?

If you are looking for getting pregnant, but having trouble getting pregnant, you can take advise about your nutrition. Supplements like fish oils, Vitamin D, probiotics, high-quality prenatal vitamins can help egg quality, and are beneficial for male factor too. You can take advise from your exercise advisor or nutritional advisor. If you have none, you can look forward to having one. This can be the solution for your having trouble getting pregnancy.

Ovulatory Disorder

Ovulation does not occur as regular as it is thought. There are a lot of women who do not have regular cycles. We are always told that typically the cycle is every 28 days, but every woman is different and their cycles vary in length. Ovulation is two weeks before your period in case it accords with this typical cycle. On the other hand, it is subject to change according to your own cycle order or disorder.

An ovulation problem occurs when eggs cannot get mature in the ovaries or when the ovaries fail to release a mature egg. This is also known as premature ovarian failure, which is worth to repeat, very common. You can realize that you have ovulatory disorder when you have absent or infrequent periods, unusually light or heavy menstrual bleeding, or lack of such premenstrual symptoms as bloating or breast tenderness.

How to deal with ovulatory disorder?

You’ll have better luck conceiving if you monitor ovulation and start having sex at the right time. Try to find your own ovulation times; and if you are not sure you can ask your doctor for help you find out. We also have to mention about sperm life—they can live for three days in the cervix, so you don’t have to have sex on the day of ovulation, it could be the day before.

Lubricant matters as well, if you are having trouble getting pregnant. Although a lot of people don’t know that, lubricant decreases sperm motility and transfer. So you should stay away from lubricant when you are trying to get pregnant and having trouble getting pregnant.

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This basically all about negative thoughts. When you are having trouble getting pregnant, it is incredible important to keep a positive attitude. Even if having trouble getting pregnant might be stressful, there is a huge mind-body connection.

Considering you have decided to be pregnant, at the very beginning give yourself around a year. When you start with this awareness and acceptance, you will feel better in case of having trouble getting pregnant.

How to deal with biofeedback issues?

Try not to listen to the negative stories. Do not forget the proverb: bad news travels fast. If you have started trying now, it can take time (probably up to a year) to conceive. If it really takes too long, ask your healthcare provider about your options for fertility counseling and treatment. This is more reliable than reading common situations because that is your own case. It is specific to you.

Male Factor

According to some research, leading cause of infertility is male factor. Around 30-40 percent of infertility problems in couples are resulted from male factors. That factor can be anything from low sperm count and poor motility to structural abnormalities. Knowing this information is important because couples do not always tend to consider this possibility, which makes the period of trying to take longer.

How to deal with male factor issues?

Male factor infertility issues are mostly treatable. So the good news is that having trouble getting pregnant will not last forever. The bad news: men suffer from this issue and the treatment process emotionally as much as women. At the beginning you should see a doctor or urologist to diagnose the problem. Then, they will let you know about the treatment with medication and/or surgery. A common treatment in case of low sperm count or motility is vitro fertilization (IVF), or a procedure called intracytoplasmic sperm injection (ICSI).


There are many women of reproductive age who suffer from endometriosis, which results in having trouble getting pregnant. Endometriosis is defined as a chronic disease of the reproductive system in which cells from the endometrium (lining of the uterus) grow where they’re not supposed to—outside the uterine cavity. In other words, it is a condition that occurs when tissue normally found in the lining of the uterus (endometrial tissue) grows outside the uterus, usually in the abdomen or pelvis.

This causes blocked tubes that could prevent the egg and sperm from mingling, or the fertilized egg from traveling down the fallopian tubes normally (causing an ectopic pregnancy). Common symptoms of endometriosis are heavy and painful periods, pain during intercourse, and mild to severe cramping during menstruation. However, remember that some women have no symptoms.

How to deal with endometriosis?

If you are suspect that you suffer from endometriosis, the only way to really know the fact is to have laparoscopy. This is a surgical procedure using a lighted tube to check for cysts in the abdomen resulting in having trouble getting pregnant. Doctor can remove these cysts during laparoscopic procedure. People may get pregnant 6 to 8 months after surgery. Some cases require opening blocked fallopian tubes, taking fertility drugs (with or without artificial insemination), and having IVF.

Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS)

Polycystic ovarian syndrome, or in short PCOS can be defined as the condition in which small follicles in the ovaries do not develop into the larger, mature follicles that release eggs. It is characterized by hormone imbalances and unpredictable ovulation patterns, as well.

People may fail recognizing PCOS because there’s such a wide spectrum of symptoms unrelated to each other. The most common symptoms are lack of ovulation, abnormal menstrual cycle, excessive weight gain, acne, unusual facial hair growth, and infertility.

How to deal with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS)?

If you are having trouble getting pregnant because of it, there are various ways to deal with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) such as lifestyle modifications, clomiphene citrate, injected fertility drugs, ovarian drilling, and IVF. In women with glucose intolerance, the diabetes drug metformin (Glucophage) can also help restore regular ovulation.

Tubal Disease

You may also suffer from blocked or damaged fallopian tubes, which prevent sperm from getting to your egg and also the fertilized egg from getting to your uterus. This means having trouble getting pregnant. Tubal disease is mostly related to pelvic inflammatory disease, sexually transmitted infections (such as chlamydia), and previous sterilization surgery.

How to deal with tubal disease?

You cannot realize that you have tubal disease by listening to your body. Only a doctor can tell you about that. The solution for tubal disease is a surgery to open the tubes. In case when surgery fails, or the tubes are too damaged to repair, IVF helps you with having trouble getting pregnant.

Egg Factor

Women over 35 may be having trouble getting pregnant as a result of significant decline in the quality and number of eggs the ovaries produce. Women are born with approximately one to two million eggs. Then they start to lose them every month, in both quantity and quality. By puberty there is only 300,000 left, and only about 300 will eventually mature and be released through ovulation.

How to deal with egg factor?

When your eggs are not help you get pregnant, you can use fertility drugs, IVF using your own eggs, IVF with donor eggs or donor embryos. Women who have IVF using donor eggs have an approximate 55 percent chance of having a baby per IVF cycle. So, having trouble getting pregnant may not be your destiny.

You cannot prevent continual loss of eggs. It is completely biological. When it comes to the quality there are many things to do. Quitting smoking, losing weight if you’re obese, managing thyroid problems, and taking supplements like fish oils, Vitamin D, probiotics, high-quality prenatal vitamins, and CoQ10 increase egg quality.

Result on having trouble getting pregnant

Having trouble getting pregnant may be result of many conditions from stress, sleep deprivation to male factor or egg factor. Variety of reasons also means that there can be many things you can do to increase your chance to get pregnant. Never feel hopeless until you try everything you can.

You can also have a look at our previous post about preparing for pregnancy to find out more solutions for your having trouble getting pregnant.

And our free courses on pregnancy may accompany you on this journey.

Good luck!

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